We were given a profound gift last night in our community meeting. After days of agony as we struggle to come to terms with the terrible loss of a friend, classmate, daughter, sister, lacrosse player and so much more - we were told the absolute truth of our communal loss from her beloved aunt (uncle and cousin also came as a show of support for this extraordinary moment) - our beautiful young woman suicided.
To hear these words directly from a family member was a powerful statement. To grieve, the truth must be spoken. To find a path through (never ever to move on, a path THROUGH), our hearts have to that starting point. We cannot grieve without truth. Nor can we in the days and weeks to come properly consider how we failed this young woman, without truth.
My deepest condolences and respect to the Virgile-Mayers family at this time. Your gesture to think of the rest of your community at such a time is one of the most radical love. We must work to honor that gesture now.