When you have had a loved one die, some days will be harder than others. Some days will be much much harder, and then there are the impossible days. Those are the days you grind through by sheer dint of stubbornness, steely will, more than a few tears, and a hopeful intention for the light between the cracks to be a whole lot bigger tomorrow.
One day that we respectively seem to find particularly bittersweet is the birthday of our dead loved one.
No single day can call up all the ‘could have, would have, should if’s’ like this day. It’s a day that can reach backward and forward all at the some time, and it can be hard to find solace any where. What could have been? What would our loved one be like now? How different would our life be? And it can be particularly hard to imagine it would be anything but a whole lot better on this day.
So how do YOU cope on these hardest of days? Let’s take a few minutes to collaborate and help each other. Even if there is a phrase you repeat to yourself, or a simple ritual you do. Let’s share our strength.
(Originally posted- 8/10/18)